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Dear Suzi:
Please help!  I have recently been insulted by two different instructors and I don’t know how to handle it. On one occasion, an instructor asked me in front of the whole class, “are you stupid?” I was speechless. I could not believe that someone who is supposed to be a professional would say something like that. On another occasion, an instructor made a horribly insensitive comment about me being ‘home-schooled’. Suzi, please give me any advice you can on the best way to handle this situation. This is so frustrating since I am a new student!
Thank you for any advice you can share!
Emotionally Hurt

Dear Emotionally Hurt:
Don’t let this move you! I was told one time to pray for people who hurt me. At the time it sounded crazy and I wouldn’t do it. This kept happening to me, and I found that hanging on to anger, hurt and resentment was taking a toll on my life and taking too much of my time at school. So I decided to pray for this person no matter how they hurt me. After about the third prayer for this person, I saw how miserable she was inside and I let go of my resentment. She can no longer take up any space in my head. This professor sounds like he is hurting, and hurting people hurt people. Now, forgive and forget his opinion of you. I for one think home-schooled people are very special, compassionate and smart. So forgive this professor because he is only human. Time is too precious; stop letting this professor rent space in your head.

Dear Suzi:
You are an inspiration to me. I have been usingdrugs and alcohol for years.  A lot of people that have my disease are dead. So my question to you is does the feeling of wanting to use ever go away? I love you.   

Dear Kendal:
First, thank you for your heartwarming question! Yes Kendal, it does go away and its replaced with joy unspeakable. So the faster you start working on your spiritual side and stop feeding the flesh, you will see miracles that you never thought were possible. I can promise you this. And guess what, Kendal? It looks like you’re well on your way. Persevere through every storm life throws at you and never, ever give up. With each storm you make it through you will get stronger. Remember, nothing good comes easy. It all starts with you, the choices you make. 

Dear Suzi:
Here is my question for you:
I seem to be having some communication issues with my 1-year old cousin, Grace. She is always able to get my attention, yet I can’t seem to get hers. I’m not sure why it is this way, but what I do know is that she is not intimidated by me. I find this to be somewhat unusual. What are your thoughts on this, and what can be done on my part?

Dear Frank,
I can tell you don’t know much about women, because as I see it, you already got her attention. That’s why she ignores you, because she’s very aware that it bothers you. Frank, if you’re trying to figure out women either 1 year old or 20, good luck. As a widow after 30 years of marriage, I can honestly say my husband could never figure me out. So Frank , as her older cousin all you should be doing is being thankful  you have a sweetheart like little Grace, and cherish her company. Some people don’t have any family. Imagine that!!!!

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